Walking the Path of Love That Leads to Paradise
Author: Ali Aminulloh
INDRAMAYU-JAYANEWS.COM – “And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you love and compassion…” (Quran, Ar-Rum: 21)
In the midst of an increasingly fast-paced world, there is one event that always makes people pause to reflect on the meaning of life. That event is marriage. Because marriage is not simply the union of two names in a legal bond, but rather the meeting of two souls who promise to strengthen each other on the long journey toward Allah’s pleasure.
Saturday, June 6, 2026, an atmosphere of emotion and joy enveloped a wedding reception in Gantar. Family, relatives, friends, and invited guests gathered to witness the union of two hearts in a sacred bond.
That day, Miyatul Jannah binti Luqman Hakim was officially married to Yusuf Saefullah bin Joharis. After the solemn and solemn wedding ceremony, gratitude flowed from the faces of the bride and groom and their extended families. A new chapter in life had begun.
But just as a long journey requires provisions, so too does married life require guidance to achieve its desired goals. Therefore, after the wedding ceremony, the guests received spiritual nourishment through marriage advice delivered by Dr. Ali Aminulloh, M.Pd.I., M.E., a lecturer at IAI Al-Azis.
With a warm and friendly style, he opened his advice with a simple pantun that immediately drew smiles from the audience.
A tomato falls to the ground,
Eat by animals, it becomes charity.
We congratulate Yusuf and Jannah,
Entering a blessed world of marriage.
The pantun was more than just an opening. It was a prayer, spoken in simple language yet rich in meaning. A hope that the newly established household will always be blessed by Allah SWT.
Beginning his sermon, Dr. Ali Aminulloh invited all attendees to reflect on Allah’s word in Surah Ar-Rum, verse 21. This verse explains that marriage is one of the signs of Allah’s greatness, a path that brings peace, love, and compassion to human life.
According to him, this verse not only addresses the relationship between husband and wife, but also contains profound lessons for anyone who wants to build a strong family. These lessons must be understood with a complete awareness, namely philosophical, ecological, and social awareness.
Understanding the Essence of Marriage
From a philosophical perspective, he invited the bride and groom to first understand the essence of marriage itself.
What is marriage?
Marriage is a contract that legitimizes the relationship between a man and a woman as husband and wife according to Islamic law.
So why do humans marry?
Because humans were not created solely to live for themselves. Humans are entrusted with the responsibility to care for and prosper the earth. One legitimate, noble, and God-approved path to continuing the generations of life is through marriage.
So why do humans marry?
The purpose of marriage doesn’t stop at physical togetherness. Marriage is a very long act of worship. It’s a journey toward true happiness, namely the creation of a family that is peaceful, loving, and merciful. Even more profound, the ultimate goal is to reunite in Allah SWT’s Paradise.
However, this noble goal will not be achieved without knowledge. That is why Allah says in Surah Al-Baqarah verse 269 that He grants wisdom to whom He wills, and whoever attains wisdom has indeed attained much good.
A happy household is not built on love alone. It is built on wisdom that keeps love alive in all circumstances.
Mutual Understanding: The First Foundation of a Family
According to Dr. Ali Aminulloh, the first step to achieving marital happiness is mutual understanding.
Why mutual understanding?
Because Allah Himself has reminded us that men and women have differences.
“And men are not equal to women” (Surah Ali Imran: 36).
These differences are evident in physical structure, psychological structure, character, habits, family background, culture, and even how we view issues.
Often, marital conflict arises not from a loss of love, but from a lack of understanding of these differences.
When husbands and wives learn to understand each other, they are no longer preoccupied with demanding that their partners be like them. They learn to accept that differences are not threats, but rather gifts that complement each other.
From understanding comes understanding. From understanding grows maturity.
Respecting Each Other : Finding Glory in Roles
When understanding grows, appreciation will naturally follow.
A husband will appreciate his wife’s struggles. A wife will appreciate her husband’s responsibilities. Both realize that each person has a different but equally important role.
In the sight of God, a person’s glory is not determined by their position in the household, but by their piety and sincerity in carrying out the mandate given to them.
This awareness will eliminate the desire to dominate each other. Instead, what will grow is cooperation, mutual support, and mutual strengthening.
Loving Each Other: Accepting with Sincerity
When appreciation grows, love will find its most mature form.
True love is not loving just because a partner has strengths. Because every human being has flaws.
True love is the ability to accept a partner as they are, with all their strengths and weaknesses. Choosing to persevere when trials come. Continuing to give love when circumstances do not always meet expectations.
It is in such conditions that love and mercy find their deepest meaning.
It’s not love that only exists when everything is going well, but love that grows stronger when facing life’s difficulties together.
From this mature love, harmony is born in the family.
Caring for Each Other: The Path to Heaven
When understanding, appreciation, and love have grown, the most beautiful attitude in married life will emerge: caring for each other.
Protecting your partner’s honor. Protecting your partner’s feelings. Protecting the trust that has been given. Protecting the family from various things that can destroy happiness.
Caring for each other means not letting your partner struggle alone. Not abandoning them when they are weak. Not turning away when trials come.
At this point, the household is no longer just a place to live together, but a place to return to that brings peace of mind.
Towards the end of his sermon, Dr. Ali Aminulloh delivered another pantun, which was warmly welcomed by the audience.
A punctured foot becomes festering,
Rest soon, stay at home.
Our prayers for Yusuf and Jannah,
May they be sakinah, mawadah, warahmah.
This simple pantun serves as a beautiful closing and encapsulates the entire message conveyed. That the ultimate goal of marriage is not the splendor of the party or worldly luxuries, but rather the creation of a family filled with peace, love, and affection, blessed by Allah SWT.
Amidst an atmosphere of gratitude and joy, this advice not only served as a lesson for Yusuf and Jannah. It also served as a reminder to every couple present that marriage is not simply the joining of two lives, but rather the joining of two souls in one common goal: growing together, worshiping together, and walking together towards Allah’s paradise.
May the steps of Yusuf Saefullah and Miyatul Jannah always be filled with blessings. May the household they build become a garden of tranquility, a place where love and affection grow, and a field of charity that continues to bear fruit until the end of life.
Because ultimately, the most beautiful household is not one that is never tested, but one that is able to see every test as a path to drawing closer to Allah and closer to one another.
That is the true meaning of sakinah, mawaddah, and rahmah. That is the path of love that fosters paradise.**
AA/Red
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