The Invisible Ring, a Preserving Bond
(Wedding Ring Day Reflection)
By: Dr. Ali Aminulloh, M.Pd.I., ME
Every February 3rd, the world commemorates “Wedding Ring Day.” It seems simple: a small ring circling the ring finger. But in reality, this day holds a much deeper message than just the sparkle of metal and gems.
National Marriage Ring Day was established by the American Gem Society in 1993. Its purpose is noble: to remind people that rings are not just jewelry, but symbols of commitment, loyalty, and love maintained in the bond of marriage.
However, does the meaning of a ring really stop with the object?
In Islam, marriage is not just a ceremony, let alone a physical symbol. It is called mitsaqan ghalizha, a great covenant. A contract. And a contract means a bond. Not a bond of fingers, but a bond of souls, responsibility, and worship that lasts a lifetime.
This is where the ring finds its true meaning.
A person’s glory in marriage is not measured by the thickness of the gold or the price of the diamonds, but by the ability to maintain the husband-wife relationship. From the ability to nurture love in the functions entrusted to them by God. In the context of worship, a husband who respects his wife, honors her feelings, and protects her with love is rewarded greatly. Conversely, a wife who serves her husband with love and sincerity, not out of compulsion, makes him a source of reward in the sight of God.
That is the true ring.
A true ring is not always wrapped around the finger. It is present in everyday expressions of love. In comforting words, in time spent together, in affirming touches, and in acts of service born of love. Because love, if not expressed, can easily turn into a cold routine.
Relationship experts call them the five love languages, and all are forms of the invisible ring:
First, praise. A sincere, kind word can strengthen a couple more than anything else.
Second, touch. A hug, a handshake, or simply a light touch are the most honest language of the soul.
Third, togetherness (quality time). Being fully present, not just physically together.
Fourth, gifts. Not the value, but the attention that accompanies them.
Fifth, service. Doing small things with love, because love is what it’s all about.
Therefore, celebrating Wedding Ring Day isn’t just about buying or renewing a ring. It’s a moment to ask yourself: am I still caring for that bond? Am I still upholding the vow, not just displaying the symbol?
Because ultimately, rings can wear out, get lost, or be replaced. But the bond of marriage, if nurtured with faith, love, and responsibility, will remain intact. And therein lies its glory.**
Indonesia, February 3, 2026
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